How To Listen So That Your Children Will Talk
July 5, 2021
There is a popular parenting book called "How to Talk So Your Kids Will Listen". I have to be honest, I prefer to suggest that we learn How to Listen So That Our Children Will Talk.
When my children were very young they loved to talk to me. To be honest, there we...
It’s so much easier to do what we’ve always done in our lives. It’s comfortable and familiar. Our complex brains like it because they know what to expect. They can be resistant to change or unpredictability and see new experiences or ways of thinking ...
How To Argue Well
March 17, 2021
I’m right, you’re wrong!You always do this!You never listen to me!I don’t want to talk about it!
Do these sound familiar? In the middle of a heated argument, kindness and respect can quickly be replaced with blame and hurt.
It doesn’t have to be that way! ...
You Are Not Your Feelings
March 4, 2021
You are not your feelings.
We often identify so closely with our feelings that we believe we are them.
I am happy.I am sad.I am lonely....
The Dance of Communication in Intimate Relationships
February 11, 2021
After working with couples for many years, I have realised something very important. People don't stray from significant relationships and have affairs because the new person is more good looking, thinner, or smarter. They turn to that person to get what they are...
The Best Way To Start The New School Year
January 28, 2021
As I was writing this blog, I asked my son for his thoughts on one thing parents could do to support their children as they go back to school. He laughed and said: “Make their lunch for them every day!” It was then my turn to laugh! I believe that...
Using The No-Fault Zone® Game: A Follow-Up With Lisa
November 20, 2020
We had such a heartfelt response to Lisa’s story regarding the shame she felt about her anger that we decided to do a follow-up blog post. Lisa used The No-Fault Zone® Game as I had suggested and she has agreed to share photos of her mat and her description of...
An Anger Epiphany
November 16, 2020
Dear Sandra,
It was over 25 years ago, so the details are a bit hazy. What I vividly remember is a group of girls standing around me outside our high school classroom and a girl named Toni looking me right in the eyes and asking out loud: “Why are you always so angry...
The No-Fault Zone® Game
September 18, 2020
Do you want to understand yourself better and figure out why you say and do the things you do?
Would you love to be able to express yourself with more clarity and confidence?
Do you experience misinterpretations and misunderstandings in relationships?The No-Fault Zone® Game...
