I've been where you are now
Looking back, I can’t remember a time in my life when I wasn’t seeking to understand myself and the world around me better.
Relationships were very important to me, but I just couldn’t seem to make them work.
After years of hurt, confusion, and anger, I began to realise that even though I thought I was a good communicator, I actually wasn’t! I assumed that everyone saw the world as I did, so I couldn’t understand why there was always so much misunderstanding and hurt.
Then, about 8 years ago, I was introduced to Marshall Rosenberg’s Nonviolent Communication (also known as Compassionate Communication) and my life began to change for the better.
A journey from arguing to connecting
For 34 years of our marriage, my husband Petar and I had a communication style that was fiery and loud. I was passive-aggressive, he was aggressive-passive and even though we both loved each other dearly, it all got lost in translation.
After learning to understand each other’s feelings and discovering that we both had unmet needs, we began to connect with one another on a much deeper level.
Don’t get me wrong, we still experience tension - the difference now is that we just can’t argue! We have learned to pause, find out what is really going on for the other person and then come together to figure out how to meet both our needs. Our lives are more contented, peaceful and enriched and I see the overflow into our family and work daily.
You’re probably wondering how we did it, and if you could do it too - in your marriage, family or business.
The truth is, you can.
You can have happy, fulfilling relationships
After more than 30 years in Social Services, I have seen the pain and damage caused by a lack of empathy and not knowing how to communicate effectively.
I have also had the privilege of watching relationships heal, deepen and grow as people have been given the tools to understand themselves and others in a way that leads to clarity and connection.
That’s what I want for you too.